According to Vittrup, hardly any of these white parents had ever talked to their children directly about race. They might have asserted vague principles—like "Everybody's equal" or "God made all of us" or "Under the skin, we're all the same"—but they'd almost never called attention to racial differences. They wanted their children to grow up "colorblind".
The article also mentioned that in homes of people of color, race is discussed much more openly. I can attest to that in our home. I know from a very early age, we have been careful that our children don't buy what the media sells (i.e. beauty = blond hair + blue eyes + white skin). It is very much apart of our lives on a daily basis. I personally think efforts are misguided if children are raised to be "colorblind". Color is the very first thing people see and our society and history dictate the inability to be such.
I'm curious to hear what other families have to say, how do you talk to your children about race? at what age do you begin?